Sometimes we do something for so long or that it becomes a part of our identity. It’s easy to take the magic in life for granted when we’ve become so used to the routine. Outside influences can overshadow how we really feel. We can lose sight of how exciting the hobby once was. At one point I couldn’t tell if my hobbies and interests were just another part of my life or things I could not live without.
Here’s How You Can Find the Magic in Your Music or Hobby Again. The Last Method is Pretty Bold.
Who or What is Really Influencing You?
It’s tough when you are younger, but there comes a time when you need to differentiate between what’s pressuring you or motivating you.
Pressure is unavoidable. That’s the honest truth. Parents are our first major influencers; then come peers, school, work and the ever notorious media. Social pressure has a purpose: to keep you working hard at being the best person you can be for this world. Pressure’s hidden treasure is to challenge you and question you. Tap into this and you’ll question your actions instead of your heart.
For example, if all of your friends play college soccer and your uncle was your high school soccer coach, you may feel inadvertently steered towards soccer. You have three choices here: rebel against the pressure, go with the flow or do the deep work and soul-searching to figure out if soccer really is what you want.
What are You Getting Out of this ‘Passion’ of Yours Anyway?
We humans are both extrinsically and intrinsically motivated. Extrinsic motivators include social prestige, approval, grades, wealth, sex, rewards and how others perceive us. These are powerful but never last and often end in emotional drainage. Intrinsic motivators are harder to find and can’t depend on the outside world. Think of curiosity, fun and fighting for what you truly believe in. When the going gets tough and the tough gets going, intrinsic motivation can sometimes fade but will never fully disappear. It feeds the power you need to last through a challenge or obstacle. Intrinsic motivation can bring magic into your life and fire into your heart.
It will probably take some time in contemplation to figure out if your ‘passion’ is extrinsically or intrinsically motivating you to carry on following it.
What Would You Do Without It? (Note: This Should Be Used as a Last Resort.)
What would you do without swimming, drawing, hip hop dancing or songwriting?
It can get to a point that year after year of your hobby, there’s only one way to find out-quit. Quit. Hobbies can develop sentimental value over time, making it stressful to imagine ever letting go. This attachment can make hobbies, even music, less exciting.
Here’s the trick. You don’t have to actually quit. Take a break and mentally detach yourself from this activity. Pick an exact amount of time that you need to detach for, whether it be an hour, day or two full months.
I highly recommend taking one week.
The tragedy of never doing this is that you may be missing out. You may miss out on other activities or fully enjoying the hobby in question the way you once did.
Once you detach yourself from this special aspect of your life mentally, you will be able to see it in a new light again. Your hobby becomes new again. You can be that kid in a candy store that you once were.
Test out these three tips. This is your chance to declare your freedom from outside influences and extrinsic motivators.